Friday, June 5, 2009

Taiger's First Spanking

I am totally, anti-spanking! I think it is just silly because we are trying to teach our children not to hit, so we hit them. We are trying to teach them to control their anger, and we lash out in physical aggression. So, I use time-out. It has been SO wonderful, and Taiger hates Time Out just as much as some kids hate being spanked. When Taiger goes to Time-Out I get to his eye level, tell him what he did wrong WHILE TOUCHING HIM (very important!) and then he has to put his palms on the wall for one minuet for how many years old he is. When his time is served, I again get down to eye level, remind him of what he did wrong, and then he has to say "Sorry, Mommy, for____". Then we give hugs and all is forgiven. I don't keep bringing it up or anything. He says sorry and it is done.

I just gave Taiger his first ever spanking. Yes. Me. Anti-Spanking. I was on my work phone and he was trying to see how far he could go before I would get angry. He even hit me! I kept giving him "the look", but he just laughed. When I would point in anger at him, he would point back and laugh. He was testing me and thought since I was on the phone, he could get away with it. Well, I took him (while I was on the phone!) and stood him in time out. He laughed and walked away. And WHACK! Okay, it was more like TAP! But it was still a spanking!

I am sure I was completely inattentive to the gentleman on the phone (who, I will say, was asking a million questions that were just ridiculous). Once I got off the phone, I put Taiger in Time-Out, using all of my old tactics, EXCEPT he had to stand there longer. Oh, and instead of using my nice "teach you a valuable life lesson" voice, I was yelling! I was MAD!

When it was time to get off Time-Out, we had longer hugs and I said sorry for spanking him.

I am the Worlds Worst mom...I can't believe I swatted my son on the behind!


Calmil2 said...

You know what...You are not the first "Great Mom" who has spanked her child :) Don't be hard on yourself!

Adopting1Soon said...

I think he needed to learn not to go over the line and you taught him that. I bet he never taunts you while you are on a business call again.

Now, if you had ABUSED him, I would have a completely different comment, but a swat and a louder than usual voice is not that terrible imo. Not something to do often, but apparently you never do, so this time I'm sure he got the message.

Megan and Vinny said...

brec, you are a great mom. you are kind and patient. a "tap" or "swat" isn't the end of the world, and neither is yelling - especially since you rarely if ever do it.

take some time to give yourself a hug and forgive yourself, too. just like you and taiger do for each other.